Stop Expecting His S*!t to Be S*!tty

Sharing custody with a narcissist is a pretty shitty situation, agreed?

Narcissists are pathological liars and manipulators who abuse because they choose to. This is our reality and we know that we have a lot thrown at us that we have to deal with.

Like me, you’ve most likely learned to expect lies, manipulation, chaos, and drama. Underneath this, I was always expecting this reality to mess up my plans with my daughter. I was sure he’d find a way to mess up my vacation. I was sure he’d throw a monkey wrench in plans and ruin the whole Christmas holiday celebration.

This is what got me into trouble. I spent so much energy thinking about how he was going to mess up my plans that I started banking on it. It controlled my life and my parenting which is exactly what he wants.

I had to make the decision that even though he was going to throw shit my way (reality), I didn’t have to expect my whole life to be shitty.

Instead of speaking those words of death over my life, I started speaking life over it. I started speaking as if miracles had already taken place. I’m not some spiritual guru, I’m just a regular woman. A mom who loves fiercely and wants to protect my kid at all costs and live a life of freedom on the other side of abuse.