No Is A Complete Sentence: Holiday Edition

Saying no to a narcissist comes with a whole package of crap that can lead you down a road of arguing back and forth, right?

There is nothing that makes a narcissist happier than to throw you into a mess of chaos.

When you’re trying to avoid conflict with the ex, especially around the holidays, it’s easy to let some of your boundaries slide. You don’t want the kids to see you argue, you don’t want to make a scene at church, etc.

Unfortunately, this can create a snowball effect.

What starts with something simple like sitting together during church can quickly escalate into the ex having lunch with you afterwards and coming to your home to watch the kids open gifts!

Suddenly you realize he snuck right back into the middle of your life and you want him OUT.

I’ve been in this very position myself! I started teaching a Sunday School class so naturally the ex did the same thing. Since we were already at church together, he wanted to sit with us. And since we were already sitting together, he wanted to eat lunch with us afterward as well.

We had been separated for two years and he was introducing me to people as his wife!

Week after week this happened, and I didn’t stop it. I was ridiculously…