Do You (Really) Want Your Kids to Have a Relationship With Their Narcissistic Father?

It’s natural to have a deep desire for your kids to have a healthy and connected relationship with their dad. But the reality is that he is not a healthy person who is able to connect with his kids. At times do you feel responsible for creating or maintaining that relationship?

I did. I found myself making decisions out of fear that my daughter wouldn’t have that relationship. When I first left, the ex told me that he was going to move across the country and I panicked.

He knew that I was extremely vulnerable, mourning the loss of our relationship and desperately desiring a relationship for my daughter with him. He used that vulnerability against me because he knew I would do whatever he wanted to keep him in the state so my daughter didn’t grow up without a dad.

When I left for the second and final time, he pulled the same trick. He told me he was going to move to Vietnam and work with orphans.

Because I had done so much healing, I was able to see this tactic for what it was. I called his bluff and told him I thought it was a great idea. I told him I was very happy for him. He never left.

I encourage you to take a good look at the reality of your situation. Ask yourself if the ex is a good guy. Is…